Speaker stresses student independence

Former Stanford University dean and author Julie  Lythcott-Haims walked up to the podium in the Mcafee Center on Jan. 20 as around 500 parents and students eagerly waited to hear her presentation on parenting and student stress. For two hours, Lythcott-Haims discussed her viewpoint and suggested method on the difficulties of raising this generation’s teenagers.

Lythcott-Haims is best known for her recent book “How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success.” She has also written opinion pieces about student life for the New York Times.

Besides the presentation for students and parents, Lythcott-Haims had another presentation for teachers during collaboration the following day. Principal Paul Robinson attended both of them and liked the message he heard.

Lythcott-Haims spoke from a college admissions perspective to emphasize that students need to become independent, responsible learners for the road ahead, and pointed out the disadvantages for children with “helicopter parents,” or parents that tend to micromanage their child’s every move. 

The message was one that resonated with many.

“She was terrific and very engaging, probably because she is incredibly articulate and knows how to use language with precision and emphasis,” English teacher Natasha Ritchie said. “Her points were also relatable and spot on.”

One parent was so pleased with the presentation that the person donated 50 copies of the book to the faculty during the next day’s collaboration. Teachers were elated by this gift.

“The book has lots of terrific insight that made it an interesting read,” Ritchie said. 

Lythcott-Haims also gave some tips on how to reduce student stress and increase confidence for students, which tied in with the recent Speak Up for Change week.

“It was fantastic,” Robinson said, “I wish we could have her for a week, and learn as much wisdom as possible.”